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From Africa to America, from the lawyer to the law breaker and from the young to the old, one powerful word evokes emotions every single time we encounter it: LOVE. This week ON THE PANEL, our distinguished panelists, from all walks of life, will reach deep down into their hearts to share with us their perspectives on true love. Does true love really exist? It’s time to find out.

TRUE LOVE: DOES IT REALLY EXIST?
By FIRST BABA ISA

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True love is a broad concept and squeezing it into a few words will be a herculean task. But to attempt this I will narrow the broadness and focus my thoughts on just the erotic aspect of love.
This aspect of love has its own broadness which for the purpose of being concise should be excused.
There are a lot of other feelings that look like love; filtering these on the screen of time will show you true love.
Infatuation is always as strong as love.  The only difference is that it wears away with time. 
Time makes true love grow stronger; infatuation fades away with the passage of time. 
Love and infatuation have distinct attributes:  love cares unselfishly about the interest of others, while infatuation is selfish, restrictive, thinking “What does this do for me?” 
In love romance often starts slowly, perhaps taking months or years; in infatuation romance starts fast, perhaps taking hours or days. In love you are attracted by the other person’s total personality and spiritual qualities; in infatuation you are deeply impressed or interested in the other’s physical appearance. (“He has such dreamy eyes!” “She’s got a great figure”). 
In love the effect on you is that it makes you a better person; in infatuation you get a destructive and disorganizing effect.  In love you view the other realistically, seeing his or her faults, yet loving that one anyway; infatuation is unrealistic. 
The other person seems perfect.  You ignore any nagging doubts about serious personality flaws. 
In love you have disagreements but you find that you can talk them out and settle them; in infatuation arguments are frequent.  Nothing really gets settled.  Many are “settled” with a kiss.  In love you want to give and share with the other person; in infatuation the emphasis is on taking or getting. 
Love is not a feeling, it is a decision you make. Feelings are just vehicles used to express love. And since it is possible for a vehicle to move empty, it’s possible for our feelings to be empty too. Watch it!

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For over 10 years FBI has been helping individuals and organizations across the country and in 5 other countries achieve cutting edge excellence in purpose discovery and delivery, business, relationship, overcoming adversity, corporate and secular politics and governance through his presentations and coaching on innovative leadership and persistence.

TRUE LOVE: DOES IT REALLY EXIST?
By AREMU ADEOLA

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Before I give my opinion on the subject matter, I would like to dissect the two key words. What does TRUE denote? It is conforming to an actual state of reality or fact. What is LOVE? It is an intense feeling of care and affection towards someone or something.
Does ‘True Love’ exist? In these days of husbands killing their wives and vice versa, fathers using their children for rituals and vice versa, siblings killing each other because of money, one tends to wonder where the love is.
A love that is supposed to protect now causes harm, one that is supposed to secure now exposes one to danger. People now have hardened hearts and reprobate consciences and one is afraid to declare one’s love because the other person might be a pretender.
The sad truth is that true love does exist but people due to their experiences in the past now expect everyone to be traitors. We find it difficult to forgive, to trust, and most importantly to love.
A world full of love starts with you and I. Leave that human mentality “once bitten twice shy”. Every one of us should forgive again and again, trust over and over again, and most importantly love unconditionally!
In conclusion live and let live!

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Aremu Adeola is a graduate of Ekiti State University where She studied Guidance and Counselling. She currently works as an Educational Therapist at a centre for special needs people. She has passion for children, teenagers, motherless children or orphans, people with disabilities, the aged.

TRUE LOVE: DOES IT REALLY EXIST?
By EMMANUEL BABALOLA

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Everyone’s love life is different; very few are lucky enough to find someone with whom they are compatible and happy so that they experience a more sincere love called “TRUE LOVE”.
But too often people settle because they’re scared they won’t find someone, so they convince themselves they are in love with that person so they won’t be alone or because they feel pressured by society.  Actually, it is a fantasy but sounds pleasant, to live an entire life with someone you care about, like to be around, have children with and attracted to, and the love is unconditional. 
True love is when a person seeks what is best for another person; it is a choice and not selfish. If you are waiting for true love to show up and take care of you, you may wait for a very long time and if you are looking for someone to love, you may have better luck, but that doesn’t mean that the love was never there or real. 
True love does exist only if you are willing, because when you think you’re in love, it is your mind that plays the reality and makes your lover perfect for you. Maybe you think you love someone, but I bet one will love the other more and the one who loves most will feel used in this game called “LOVE”. All one needs is to be with someone you can trust, respect and admire. 
The difference between like, love and in love is the same difference between for now, for a while and forever. Love does not need a reason. Pure love will come from the heart without reason and it will stay every season. It is so easy to fall in love but hard to find someone who will catch you or just because someone tells you they love you doesn’t mean they actually do. Someone asked me “Why is it that we love the ones who ignore us and ignore the ones who love us?” My response was, “True love can be felt more in the silence than in the words we say.”
Love is out there and it is the most beautiful feeling in life. Love is everlasting and although it could be an illusion, it is the greatest adventure one can take. It is real; we live it and breathe it. Love suffers all and is kind. Love does not envy, love does not parade itself, it does not behave rudely, it does not seek its own, it is not provoked, it thinks no evil, does not rejoice in inequity but rejoices in the truth.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never fails, take it and live it. I believe true love does exist.

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Emmanuel Babalola is a young dynamic relationship counselor, writer, leadership and life coach, with several years of relevant experience.
He is the visionary leader of Noble International Consult: an organization that is committed to training and building young and vibrant leaders in campuses and Churches. He is also a master facilitator for Exquisite Teens. He blogs at http://www.emmanuelsbabs.wordpress.com

TRUE LOVE: DOES IT REALLY EXIST?
By MURITALA AYOBAMI JELEEL

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To be candid, it is not incorrect to say that true love does not exist in this century. Those who have had break-ups or pain in one relationship or the other would understand how rare true love is. To be frank, the love of money mostly outweighs true love for females; in the same vein, the love of sex outweighs true love for males. It is rare to see a balance. That is if the truth needs to be told. Thanks.

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Muritala Ayobami Jeleel is AAT certified. He is a God-fearing and hospitable fellow.

TRUE LOVE: DOES IT REALLY EXIST?
By Ayooluwa Ajibolas Thomas

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I’ll start by saying in words, the lyrics of a song I learnt some 2-4 years back. True love is I.ending like a ring, if you say you love, you’ve got to trust one another because love is not suspicious and love dp not hate.
With the love of God, we all can live forever in peace.
I strongly believe “True Love” still very well exist. Love is never meant to be theoretical but practical. In our everyday’s choice of words, different people have given different definitions to what love is and if you must know, no one can give an all round definition to what love is.
And to know exactly if there’s anything called “True Love” we must really know what “Love” is.
So, I believe real love is not in more definitions but in expression from your heart. Its not more in the sayings than it is of the acts. It’s not in understanding the equations or in having the exceptional ability to define it but it is rather an unlimited flow or expression from our hearts which can’t be influenced by people’s action but rather the expression of love influences people’s action.
True Love in relationships still very well exist. It’s not about what we see about men around us but its about us relating with men. I thus put it to you that if you think True Love no longer exist, it then mean true humans no longer exist because love isn’t expressing men but men expresses love.
True Love is not an action from a person but about the person that choosea to show love. True Love doesn’t mean the individual will be gullible in the relationship but it means all of his actions will be done with a mindset of love.
So, lets stop defining love without backing it up with sincere acts. Let’s start acting in love. The worst man on earth cannot but respond positively to Love. “True Love” is all about you. Yes you.
So let our minds repent from the idea of the impossibility of True Love and it should start knowing that Genuine Love starts with you.. Thank you.

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Ayooluwa Ajibolas Thomas has a BSc in Economics, is AAT Certified, with ACA in progress. He is a Teacher of God’s word. Ayo recently worked as a brand ambassador of Unilever Plc. He looks forward to aiding the progress and transformation of the financial and economic state Nigeria.

TRUE LOVE: DOES IT REALLY EXIST?
By Atinuke Ayo-Makinde

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The word “True” according to the Merriam-webster online dictionary means real or genuine while “Love” means a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person.
Merging the two words together, I can define True Love as a real or genuine feeling of strong or constant affection for a person.
True love can only be identified by certain characteristics:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)”
It’s only when all these qualities are in place that true love can be expressed. So instead of looking at Physical appearance, popularity or wealth in a relationship, look for these qualities and to be able to identify them; you have to be completely honest with yourself, look at the word of God and understand the level of commitment that comes with true love.
How can we show love to the less privileged and to our nation?
Showing love to the less privileged could be carried out through diverse approaches, either through financial aid, provision of free health care services, free education, financial empowerment etc. but this requires a great deal of sincerity, love and care and most importantly, fear of God as well as to a very large extent, patient on the part of the individuals/ group carrying out the initiative.
We can show love to our nation by praying for her, speak positive things about her, abide by the rules and regulations and be responsible citizens.

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Atinuke Ayo-Makinde (nee Ladele) a.k.a Tkay is a graduate of Demography & Social Statistics, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife.
‘Tinuke is passionate about Leadership, Entrepreneurship and Development. She is an avid reader who believes that “A Great Reader makes A Great Leader”. She concentrates on quality, precision and results. Tinuke is currently the Programmes Team Project Officer at British Council, Abuja.

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