“Fall seven times, stand up eight.”
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying”.
3 distinguished panelists have given their verdict on this week’s topic: DOES FAILING MAKE YOU A FAILURE?
Traditional schooling has programmed us to think that failing is bad and should be avoided by every means possible. One of the biggest fears that limits and stops people is the fear of failure. Failure is defined as an event or person who does not accomplish an intended purpose.
Life is hard and everyone is going to fail at something. Whether it’s a new idea, course, business even learning a new language. Think about it, you have most likely failed at something in the past. Did that confine or program you to become a failure? Failing is usually something you can’t avoid, therefore it is safe to say that failing comes with trying.
When you fail, there are usually two ways to react. Either you give up or you try again. Due to the emotional and psychological stress attached to failing, most people give up believing it’s impossible to accomplish such tasks. Only those with the will and courage to defy failure eventually succeed. That implies that not trying hard enough or not trying at all is what confines us to become a failure. Someone once said, “You do not become a failure until you quit before you succeed “. So, failing is not a recipe for failure but rather it’s a requirement if one will ever succeed. Failing doesn’t make you a failure. What makes you a failure is not seeing beyond simple acts of failing and that is attributed to self-doubts and other limiting factors which are always never a true reflection of who we are and what our capabilities truly are.
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Absolutely no! But it could be yes, if you fail to learn from what you failed at and why you failed. If you think of why you have failed and try retrospection into why you have failed and learn from it, you will definitely become successful at the end of the day.
There is a saying in the Islamic world that if you are afraid of failing, you’ll never rise; that is failing doesn’t mean you’ll never succeed in your life. If you fail, it’s just for you to learn. Experience they say, is the best teacher, failing is an experience to learn from.
Look into what led to that failure, how it happened and why it happened and learn, if you try to do the same thing again, it will be successful.
Thomas Edison, the man who invented the incandescent light bulb, failed several times. According to history, he failed approximately 10,000 times but come to think of it, in any part of the world now, anyone in need of illumination will definitely use the light bulb. Everyone celebrates Edison today. If someone like him has failed in the real sense and we can still use the result of his failure, trial and error up till now, then it’s a lesson for us that failing is never failure. The ability to learn from what and why you have failed is all that matters. That way, failing will make you a master at what you failed at in the long run.
A short story about myself: I failed English in secondary school but I didn’t take it as a final verdict. I read many books and listened to professional speakers. Today, English is what brings food to my table as a fine broadcaster. It is the twirl of my trade and I’ve won many awards in this profession. Bottom line is this: failing is not failure, it is rather a step forward to being the master at what you failed at.
Ibraheem is an On Air Personality at Impact Business Radio 92.5fm. He’s a broadcast journalist, persona grata, a competent master of ceremony, a motivational speaker with a clear vision who is keen on getting youths more motivated and inspired. He’s currently the best English presenter at IBR.
OGUNLEYE AYODEJI RICHARD
Failing is a natural phenomenon. It is what we experience daily. When you plan to set out for work by 7:00am and then depart by 7:05am it can be said that you have failed at that particular task. However, if you were able to get to your work place punctually despite the delay one can take respite that it wasn’t a bad start to the day after all.
As humans, we are imperfect, so daily failings are common occurrences. The truth is failing does not make anyone a success neither can it be said that failing guarantees success.
In retrospect, going from failure to failure without lack of enthusiasm is the secret to the best success stories we have ever heard. You and I must have fallen several times before we learnt how to stand on our feet, and then walk and then run.
So, does failing make you a failure? No. Not at all. Quitting at a task which you hitherto failed at when you had the chance to excel makes one a failure. At the end success is not being the best at what you do but giving your best in what you do.
Ogunleye Ayodeji Richard is a Medical Student at the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife. He is passionate about realizing the modern African perspective for global impact through Leadership, Training and Capacity Building. He is also an avid Investor and a budding Politician.
He is presently the Regional Head, Training and Capacity Building, Nigerian Medical Students’ Association, South-West Region and a member of the Students Representative Body of his Class (PaceSetters).
To round up this week’s discussion, here are some powerful quotes from the most successful people of all time.
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up”.
-Thomas A. Edison
“It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure”.
“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure… than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat”.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default”.
-J. K. Rowling
“I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is false. The hundredth time I am right”.